I've played with the idea of blogging for a while now. Aparently I opened this account 6 or 7 years ago and completely forgot about it. Yep. It's probably due to everything that happend in the last 6-7 years. Let's look back.
I had a whirlwind romance, that went from flirting to MARRIED in just over 2 months and before you ask... no I was not pregnant. I can give you all the cliches in the book. It just felt right... He is my soulmate... When you know you know... He is my destiny... The truth is - the Lord and His devine plans is the reason. He saw that both of us seemed incapable of making decisions that would benefit us. In the long run, our bad choices were seriously interferring with His promise of prosperity. I sometimes imagine Him looking at me with this exasperated look on His face - unable to coherently put my latest catastrophe into words - just throwing His hands in the air and muttering...Just.... WHY? ( I think becoming a parent probably brought me as close to understading this as I could possible get!)
Anyhoo... He, the starbreathing Maker of creation, decided to give us a little nudge. Anybody that has ever really had a God encounter, can testify that His plans is not our plans and His time is not our time. Also, I think He Knew that if He gave us too much rope - we would most certainly hang ourselves - i.e. mess up this beautiful gift that He was giving us. So there was no rope - and in very little time (3 weeks before I turned 30...eeek) we said I do, before God and our parents.
Even though I love this husband of mine dearly, our union was not without its bumps. Luckily we both have very good examples that shows hard work pays off. Both his and my parents have enjoyed long marriages. It seems you have to find a groove - a kind of rythm. Contrary to popular belief, this is not a natural process... it does not come instinctively. The only way that we eventually got our groove, is by following God's beat. The point I am trying to make - a good/happy marriage is HARD WORK. It is sacrifice and compromise. You learn to pick your fights, as there will come times when being right is not worth hurting your other half. Sometimes it is frustrating and you feel like you or not even in the same book - nevermind on the same page. It is a process of building something together - taking the good with the bad.
It is also rewarding and immensly satisfying to find and have the one person where you belong. Yes person, not place. When you work at building a life, wherever you may find yourself - geographically speaking - is irrelevant. When you are with your person, you belong.
Once you we got our groove - we entered the next phase - building a family - but that is a story for another day.
Be blessed and choose to be happy.
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